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DAVID BENTLEY'S WEEKLY COLUMN


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DAMAGE ASSESSMENT

I'm a big guy. That's why I go for a 3 mile walk most mornings. So when I stepped off the edge of the road and into a pothole as an oncoming car approached, the resulting fall was not a pretty sight. Fortunately I had the good sense to crumple and roll rather than brace myself with hands and arms. In the final analysis, I had two small cuts, no bruises, a slightly damaged ego, and 3 days worth of sore muscles and stiff joints.

When I realized that I was indeed falling and could not regain my footing, my brain seemed to allow my eyes to go into stop action mode. I could see the ground, then the sky, then the startled expression on my walking partner's face. I saw his hands reaching out to grab me as his feet shuffled to keep my swerving body from knocking him down, too.

When I finally came to rest in the gravel at the edge of the road, I sat up with my legs stretched out in front of me. My partner extended his hand to pull me to my feet with the same speed that a parent swoops up a fallen toddler before he can decide whether or not to cry. I refused his hand, explaining that I needed a moment for damage assessment. After checking in with each part of my body, I let him help me up and made the final half block of our walk in my ripped jeans and dirt covered t-shirt.

Several days later, I realized the lesson of my fall. Sometimes, when life trips us up, we need a few minutes to sit in our pain for a little damage assessment before getting up and continuing our journey. Our egos may be tarnished. We may suffer a few wounds. We may even need some assistance from others. However our journey does continue despite the unplanned delay.

  • How do you react when you fall?

  • Do you take time to assess the damage?

  • What is your response to the pain?

  • Are you willing to accept assistance?

© 2006 David Bentley


David Bentley, M.Ed., is an avid observer of people, places and events. He uses his storytelling and questioning skills to help himself and others think outside the box in an ever-changing world.

Comments about his column can be sent to davidbentley@sanjuanislander.com.

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