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WEDDING REHEARSALS
Wedding rehearsals are a bit disorganized at best. Participants either don't know each other or haven't seen each other in some time. Emotions are high and patience is running short. Even though the clergy and musicians have done this dozens of times, most participants have little wedding experience. However, everyone has an opinion about how things should be done. No wonder wedding rehearsals are often chaotic. The participants in these rehearsals fall into some distinct categories. There are the professionals who are being paid to participate, including the clergy, the musicians, and perhaps even a photographer or a wedding planner. The wedding party itself is comprised of the soon-to-be spouses and their attendants, often including a rose petal dropper and ring bearer. Then there are the parents of the betrothed. The mothers know where to sit on the front pew on the appropriate side of the aisle. The fathers are either bored or busy writing checks. The remaining folks are generally assistants to the professionals or relatives of someone in the wedding party. The people who have clearly defined jobs seem to be the most detached. The relative who is merely a chauffeur, the spouse who is to supervise a child or two, the youngsters who will hand out seed bags or bottles of bubble soap to guests, the photographers and the musicians -- these are the folks who know exactly what is expected of them. They are not invested in the emotional milieu. They are cool, calm, and collected. Everyone else is trying to figure out their roles as they go along, and can easily get caught up in the chaos and confusion. Eventually, as in most aspects of life, a plan to which all can agree emerges. Then, despite the inevitable glitches, the couple is happily married.
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