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DAVID BENTLEY'S WEEKLY COLUMN

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BREAKING TRADITION

Being single, I always receive invitations from married friends to join them and their families for holiday meals. Sometimes I am in a mood to celebrate with them. On other occasions I prefer to have time alone for reflection and catching up on projects that don't always fit into my normally busy life. This year, I decided to accept an interesting invitation for a non-traditional Thanksgiving steak dinner.

When Thursday arrived, I had the whole morning to attend to my solitary meditation and reflection needs as well as time for a long soak in the tub. Before going to my hosts' home, I took a short walk and met some other friends. They asked if I had dinner plans, and told me they were going to grill baby back ribs. Hmmm, I thought, another non-traditional Thanksgiving dinner.

That night -- after a delicious steak dinner, an interesting movie, and hours of conversation with my hosts -- I returned home feeling thankful for friendships, my island home, and the freedom and means to enjoy holidays and non-traditional meals. Turning on the computer, I found several e-mails from friends around the country. One, from a couple in Kentucky, stated they were having ham and scalloped potatoes for Thanksgiving. Another from Seattle talked about their tasty salmon feed. A third from North Carolina spoke about Grandma's "traditional" sauerkraut and sausages. Could this have been the most non-traditional Thanksgiving in the history of our country?

On Friday morning I woke up without the usual morning after symptoms of overeating. For a brief moment after breakfast, though, I wondered what I would eat the rest of the day without leftover turkey and a carcass to boil. However a quick survey of the refrigerator and the pantry turned up all the ingredients for a homemade pizza and a box of organic butternut squash soup. Then, with my temporary fears about having broken tradition alleviated, I went for a pleasant stroll around the neighborhood and enjoyed another morning of glorious weather.

  • Do you ever break traditions?

  • Are there some traditions that no longer serve you?

  • Could another custom serve you better?

  • What action are you ready to take this holiday season?

© 2007 David Bentley


David Bentley, M.Ed., is an avid observer of people, places and events. He uses his storytelling and questioning skills to help himself and others think outside the box in an ever-changing world.

Comments about his column can be sent to davidbentley@sanjuanislander.com.

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